Have you lost your joy? Day 9

Sharp edges where there used to be softness. When someone is running on empty, irritability often replaces ease. The barista’s mistake becomes an indictment. A partner’s question feels like criticism. The dog’s muddy pawprints become a personal affront (I say this as a man with a very enthusiastic dog).

A woman I know, started apologizing for snapping before the other person has time to react. It was automatic and heartbreaking. We agreeed on a phrase she could use when the hear rose: ‘I’mmore tired than I realized. Can we paise and try again.?’ People were kinder than she feared. The sharpness was a smoke alarm, not a personality change.

If this is you: notice the early warning sign-right shoulders, shallow breath. Step outside, run cold water over your wrists, ask for a reset. Softness isn’t weakness; it’s a sign your system feels safe.